Put yourself in his/her shoes” is often really good advice, because when we are in conflict with someone we are unable to empathize with them. And we would reach a consensus sooner if we could see behind the anger, fear or hurt, the person who may be struggling with similar emotions to our own, but who is unable to express himself.

The above title is a quote from Jiddu Krishnamurti, the Indian philosopher who travelled the world for over sixty years giving lectures whose main message was that only a complete transformation of individual hearts can bring peace to societies. He stressed that he...